Falling pregnant can be a time of jubilation. But for many parents, that jubilation doesn’t extend to nine months – miscarriage and ectopic pregnancies will dash the dreams of hundreds of Australian women every day.
For those women and their partners, losing a baby will be a huge emotional upheaval, with so many different feelings at play. Shock and grief, irrational guilt and anxiety about future pregnancies are all natural responses to the loss.
Knowing what the signs are, and what you might experience both physically and emotionally, is important.
First, let’s define what miscarriage is: it’s loss of your baby before 20 weeks, and most often before 12 weeks. (The loss of a baby after 20 weeks is considered as a stillbirth.) About 20 per cent of known pregnancies end in miscarriage; even more end before the mother knew she was pregnant.
“We don't talk about how common miscarriage is, and how normal it is for the body to create something that isn’t quite right … and allow it to miscarry,” says Dr Danielle Wilkins, director of maternity services at Cabrini Health. “It is very, very sad, but it is also normal.”
Women often blame themselves for their miscarriage, thinking that they’ve done something wrong to cause the loss of their baby. But there’s no evidence to suggest that factors such as exercise, stress or even having sex lead to miscarriage.
The single most common cause is the embryo failing to develop properly due to a random error in its chromosomes – this is spontaneous, and not inherited from either parent. Other causes include hormonal abnormalities, immune system and blood-clotting issues, medical conditions such as diabetes and high fevers caused by severe infections.
What happens when you miscarry
Bleeding and strong cramping are the most common signs of a pregnancy loss, And it’s imperative you seek medical advice if you have these symptoms.However, many women experience light bleeding in early pregnancy and, if a foetal heartbeat can be picked up during an ultrasound, there’s a 95 per cent chance the pregnancy will continue.
If you do miscarry and the bleeding and cramping taper off, it usually means all the pregnancy tissue has left your womb. Typically, a check-up with your doctor or midwife is all you need.
However, if you have a fever, ongoing or heavy bleeding, or increasing pain, it might be an ‘incomplete’ miscarriage. This means pregnancy tissue hasn’t come away from the uterus. Another possibility is a ‘missed miscarriage’: your body hasn’t realised the foetus has died. You may still feel pregnant and it may not be discovered until you have a routine scan.
If the pregnancy tissue hasn’t passed, as with an incomplete or missed miscarriage, discuss your options with your doctor or midwife. These include:
- wait and see (expectant management)
- take medication to empty the uterus (medical management)
- have a D&C[ST30] to physically remove the uterine contents (surgical management).
Dr Wilkins says women can choose whichever option they prefer, provided it’s appropriate for their condition. “I think as long as women understand the pros and cons to each of those particular treatments, they can make a well-educated choice and they’ll cope reasonably well.”
What happens in an ectopic pregnancy
Occasionally, fertilised eggs implant outside the uterus, usually in the fallopian tube. Because the tube can’t stretch, the pregnancy can’t continue.
Discovering an ectopic pregnancy from symptoms alone – like pain on one side of your abdomen, vaginal bleeding, shoulder tip pain, diarrhoea and vomiting – isn’t easy. But you should seek urgent medical advice from your treating team if you have these symptoms.
About 1 in 100 pregnancies is ectopic. In around half of these there is no obvious risk factor for ectopic pregnancy. But some factors that increase the odds are:
- previous infection, such as chlamydia
- fertility treatment like IVF
- previous surgery, including caesarean section and appendix removal
- being over 35.
Again, your doctor may offer you options to wait and see, have medication that stops the embryo developing, or surgery. If you need surgery, the doctor may either remove the pregnancy from the tube, or remove the tube.
“Either of those surgical treatments do make it a little bit complicated for further pregnancies,” says Wilkins. “Anybody who had one ectopic should be monitored very closely in subsequent pregnancies.”
Your next pregnancy
If you want to try to fall pregnant again after a miscarriage, you may be wondering if you need medical clearance. Wilkins says there are often things women want to discuss before their next pregnancy, like improving their pre-conception health. If you’ve had a complete miscarriage with no complications, there’s no medical reason to seek clearance, however, although it’s a good idea to have a follow up with your doctor 4-6 weeks afterwards.
Be reassured that it’s very normal to feel anxious about your next pregnancy. Although the chance of a second miscarriage is still only 1 in 10, the statistics may not reassure grieving women.
“It’s a really tricky time for them because they’ve lost faith in their body and in the process. And it’s really difficult to accept this next pregnancy is going to be a healthy one,” Wilkins explains.
Fears about another miscarriage often stop couples announcing the pregnancy to friends and family until the end of the first trimester. But to support prospective parents earlier on, Wilkins wants to see this change.
“If a couple did have an unsuccessful pregnancy, they would want those people to be there to support them. I’d really like to let people know it's okay to share their news as soon as they’re comfortable sharing, and there's no golden rule about waiting until 12 or 13 weeks.”
There are rare cases where women go on to have multiple pregnancy losses, known as recurrent miscarriage. It’s important to remember that recurrent miscarriage affects less than 1 per cent of women. Your GP is the first point of contact: they will likely refer to you to specialists for further investigation.
Remember to ask for help
It’s important to recognise the emotional effects of losing a pregnancy. Sadness, guilt, regret, anger, relief, shock, anxiety and loneliness are all common feelings. Visit PANDA or call their helpline on 1300 726 306 for support, or Beyond Blue on 1300 224 636.
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