Is your child drinking too much?

Young adults tend to be more at risk of binge drinking. How to tell if it's a problem, and what to do about it.

Written by Medibank

Seeing your children graduate and head off on their next adventure – whether that is university, a gap year or starting out in the workforce is an exciting time. They’re spreading their wings, meeting new people, discovering the world… and alcohol. 

teenagers with alcoholic drinks in their hands

Binge drinking is a common problem in Australia, and young adults tend to be more at risk. Maybe it’s the newfound freedom, the fact they don’t quite know their limits yet or the need for some false confidence when searching for romance.

Whatever the reason, it can be difficult to know when drinking is a problem, and what to do about it. Read on to find out. 

The facts: young people and alcohol

An Australian Institute of Health and Welfare report on drinking trends in Australia found that 18-24 year olds were more likely to drink at risky levels than any other age group.

Almost half (41 per cent) reported drinking more than 4 drinks in one sitting on a monthly basis, and around 15 per cent reported drinking 11 or more standard drinks on a single occasion.

In comparison, the Australian guidelines advise drinking no more than two drinks a day to avoid alcohol-related disease and injury over the long term, and no more than four standard drinks in a single sitting to avoid alcohol-related injury.

Do they have a drinking problem? Signs to look out for

Even if your child is drinking more than they should, it doesn’t necessarily mean they have developed a drinking problem. 

Alcohol dependence, also known as alcohol addiction or alcoholism, means you have a physical or mental dependence on alcohol, and experience withdrawal symptoms when you stop drinking.

It is sometimes hard to tell the difference between unhealthy drinking behaviour and more serious drinking problems, especially in Australia where there is a heavy drinking culture. However, there are common signs and symptoms of alcohol dependence to look out for:

  • Worrying about when they’ll be able to have their next drink.
  • Drinking or wanting to drink when they wake up.
  • Drinking on their own, or hiding their drinking from their family or friends.
  • Negative change in relationships with their family and friends.
  • Regularly staying out late and encouraging friends to keep drinking when they’ve said they want to go home.
  • Sweating, feeling nauseous or unable to get to sleep when they don’t drink alcohol.
  • Needing to drink more and more alcohol to get drunk.

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Can you do anything about your adult child’s drinking?

If you have concerns about your child’s drinking – whether it’s unhealthy drinking or something more serious – the best thing you can do is have an open and honest conversation about your concerns. It’s not always easy, but there are some things you can do to make the conversation easier. The Alcohol and Drug Foundation suggests:

  • Get the tone right: Try to make it a conversation, rather than a lecture, and avoid sounding like you’re accusing them.  Stay calm and keep it respectful.
  • Ask questions: Let them talk. Ask them how alcohol makes them feel, and whether they think they have a problem.
  • Do it when they’re sober: It might be tempting to have the conversation there and then, but the outcome is usually much better if they’re not affected by alcohol.
  • Use I statements instead of you statements: Try to use statements like “I am worried about how much you are drinking” rather than “You have a drinking problem.”

Remember that they are adults and you can’t solve the problem for them. Real, long-term change only happens when they acknowledge the problem and make the decision to deal with it.

If your child decides they need help, there are lots of support services out there. A good place to start is with your GP, but there are also lots of free phone and online services that provide information and support.

And remember to look after yourself – dealing with an alcohol or drug problem can be difficult and stressful.

Read more about drugs and alcohol.

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